Ah, the holidays! Thanksgiving is almost here and suddenly it’ll be New Year’s Eve. So many chances to spend time with the family. So much time to be all warm and cozy with loved ones. Or not.
Even the best of families can go through challenging times, but I see people every day who do not look forward to spending concentrated time with their relatives. Now don’t get me wrong – these are, more often than not, people who love their families and do want to spend time with them. It’s just…
Drama. Maybe not This Is Us drama, but we all bring our own flavor of reactivity. And, when my drama bumps up against yours, and when you and she have a long history, and when some of us are too stressed to think straight…drama.
Here are some quick tips to help stay sane and out of the drama so you can enjoy your holidays.
#1. Breathe. And then breathe again. I’m serious. Taking a breath gives you time – time to think before you say something that will escalate a problem. Nothing can trigger us faster than a family member bringing up something from the far, distant past. That leads us to…
#2. Keep the past in the past, unless it’s a pleasant memory that everyone can cherish.
#3. Find a reason to smile. Think of something in your life that you appreciate. Feel that appreciation in your heart. Let that feeling lift to a smile. Let the smile go all the way to your eyes.
#4. Remember that people who complain and find fault are uncomfortable in their own skin. Don’t take it personally.
#5. Get plenty of rest. Set limits with holiday obligations. You are allowed!
If you’re anticipating overwhelm or just need an emotional tune-up, join me for my Tapping into Joy workshop on December 8. Discover simple tools to let go of stress, anger, guilt, frustration, and sadness that can interfere with enjoying your holidays. Amplify the feelings you want – like joy, peace and contentment.